In order to be married in Church, you must satisfy five legal requirements:-
1. One of you at least must be resident in the parish of the church in which you wish to be married, or be on the electoral roll of the church (for which you must worship there regularly for at least 6 months).
2. If one of you is living in a parish other than the one in which you wish to be married, you will need to arrange for banns to be read by the vicar of that parish, and obtain a banns certificate from him / her.
3. If either of you will not be 18 by the proposed date of the wedding, we will need to know that the consent of parents or guardians has been obtained.
4. You must not be related to each other.
5. In addition, the Church of England requires you to undergo Marriage Preparation. Once a year here in the St J’s Group we run a Marriage Preparation course on the Saturday before Valentines Day, and so you will need to be available to attend this day if you would like to be married in one of our churches. You can read more about Marriage Preparation and the thinking behind it by scrolling down to the bottom of this document.
Please see separate document/link for the current fees (click here for 2017), but do note that if your wedding is next year then your fees may be increasing.
Please remember, if either of you live outside of the parish you will need to get your banns of marriage read in your home parish church as well. Once the Banns have been read in your home parish church you will need to present a certificate to our Rector, Revd Matthew Street.
ORDER OF SERVICE
A printed order of service, containing hymns and essential details is strongly recommended. Do remember that this is your day, and we will encourage you to make it as personal to you and your families as possible, within the legal requirements. For example, you may wish to invite a family member or friend to read a lesson, or to lead the prayers. You will wish to choose hymns, readings and perhaps prayers that have significance for you. Approximately two months before your service you will need to will arrange a meeting with our Rector, Revd Matthew Street to discuss the details of your service.
Our resident organist will normally be available to play for your wedding. Permission is required if you wish to have another organist, in which case the parish organist fee of £100 is still payable.
BELLS (Only available at St Julian’s Wellow)
Once all the paperwork is in place and in order for your wedding then the Church Administrator can put you in touch with the bell ringing team in Wellow to explore the possibility of having the bells rung at your wedding, if indeed you would like this. Please note there is an extra charge of £90 for this service. Please let us know if you would be interested in having bells rung at your wedding.
You are more than welcome to display and decorate the Church with flowers. We do ask though that you clean up any mess created.
PHOTOGRAPHY & VIDEO RECORDING
Discreet professional photography – although not flash – is permitted during the service if you so wish. Video recording is allowed, but an additional fee of £50 is charged for reasons of music copyright (see fees insert).
SOUND DESK (Only available at St John’s PSJ and St Julian’s Wellow)
If you require the church to provide a sound desk operator on the day there will be a charge of £40 for this service – as per the fees document.
We believe that marriage can and should be a wonderful adventure of love and joy, and we take our responsibilities to all our couples extremely seriously. For this reason, and because we know how deeply you want your marriage to have the best chance of lasting and growing in joy, we are committed to preparing you for your marriage as fully as we can.
MARRIAGE PREPARATION DAY
We invite all couples getting married in any one year to a Marriage Preparation Day, in which we look at various areas of opportunity and challenge which all couples face, and learn together some of the skills that can turn challenge into opportunity. During the day, you will have the chance to talk with an organist, and we also ‘walk through’ a wedding. The Day costs £25 per couple and we even provide lunch. One couple who came on the day in the past said, ”We were somewhat suspicious when we first heard about the day, wondering what lay behind the invitation. But within the first few minutes we were put completely at ease, and enjoyed getting to know the other couples. The day was very relaxed, the material presented was relevant to our situation, and we came away with some excellent tips about making our relationship even better.”
Please note that it is a legal requirement to undertake some kind of marriage preparation in the Church of England. If you are unable to attend the Preparation Day set-up by St John’s Church alternative arrangements will need to be made between yourselves and the Church Office.